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If you have arrived on this site you are likely to be experiencing difficulties in your relationship. For many of my clients this is their first experience of working with a Relationship/Marriage Counsellor and they naturally feel apprehensive about what to expect or if working with a Counsellor will work for them. People seek Relationship/ couples therapy for many different reasons, my areas of specialism are :
I work with same sex couples, hetrosexual couples and individuals.
My Approach, and how Relationship Counselling can help you
Relationship coaching and counselling is my area of specialism, and I have worked helping hundreds of couples and individuals with their relationship problems for the past 15 years. I have helped couples and individuals from all walks of life from Celebrities, Politicians, Barristers, Judges, Medics, Teachers, Police Officers, Office workers and everyone in between. What is clear is that it is irrelevant how much success an individual has achieved, or how much wealth they may have acquired - if you find yourself in a distressed relationship the unhappiness clouds your whole life.
By the time a couple decides to seek help from a marriage counsellor their relationship is usually in acute distress. Research shows that couples will often struggle for 7 years prior to looking for help. Unfortunately Relationship Counselling is often seen as "the last chance saloon" before separation or divorce. Many couples view the need to seek help as failure or weakness, often delaying making an appointment until their desperation leaves no other option.
What has become clear from working with many hundreds of couples, is that most people are not aware of the basic rules required for a healthy and happy relationship. This is not surprising as relationship skills are not taught in our schools and universities. Generally our knowledge of relationships is acquired from trial and error as our lives unfold.
My approach has proven itself time and again to produce strong and lasting results. My process does not place a sticking plaster over the problems but gets to the very root of the issues and provides a strong foundation with which to grow a health and happy relationship. I will teach you life long relationship tools that will strengthen not only your romantic relationships but the relationships in all areas of your life. This knowledge will allow you to confidently overcome any future issues as they arise.
As a Relationship/Marriage Counsellor I help couples to listen to each other, and hear what the other is trying to say. I help to facilitate difficult or uncomfortable conversations, helping couples to turn and face long standing difficulties. Marriage counselling helps couples to reestablish the bonds of friendship and kindness towards one another that over the years can often get lost. Couples find that counselling takes their relationship to a new level of understanding, with couples stating that they have become closer than they have been in years.
My results speak for themselves and I am proud to say that more than half of my new clients come to me via referrals. Couples often comment on how quickly their relationship turns around. I do not believe in a prolonged process, my approach brings about lasting change, quickly and effectively. The average number of sessions required by the majority of couples is 5.
Being trained in both Life Coaching and Relationship Counselling, my approach is both 'active' and solution focused. I work from where you are right now. I am goal orientated and focused on action being the main instigator of change. My voice is one of advise, support and motivation, and together we formulate a strong plan to move your relationship forward. If you keep doing the same things you will keep getting the same results. Talk therapy is important to unburden and to find out what is going wrong, but ultimately the aim is to bring about a change in the way you feel, and increase your relationship happiness. Relationship training, talk therapy and a strong action plan bring about exciting results. Clients are always surprised at quite how quickly their difficulties can be turned around.
I have trained with The Gottman Institute in the United States. The Gottman Institute bases its couples counselling on 40 years of research of thousands of couples. The theories developed from these studies can accurately predict a couples chance of long term happiness. I use many of their methods in my work with couples.
I also regularly work one-to-one with individuals who are either struggling to get over a past relationship, undecided as to the way forward with their current relationship, or are looking to break the cycle of a string of broken relationships. My process will provide you with the tools to understand what has been going wrong and how to fix it, so you can move forward confidently, with the knowledge needed to create healthy and happy future relationships.
It takes real courage to turn and face your problems, and if I had a pound for every couple that said they wished they had come for couples counselling years earlier I would be exceedingly wealthy. Unfortunately all too often couples view seeking help as a sign of weakness, and believe that they should be able to sort through problems themselves. Men in particular struggle with the idea of seeking relationship support. If your car stops working you take it to a garage you don't limp around in a broken car for years. I am a specialist in what I do and can quickly and effectively put your relationship back on track.
Dennis and Rita Lewis. Penarth.
I cover Cardiff, Penarth, Barry, Sully, Dinas Powys, Porthcawl, Swansea, Newport, Bristol, Bath and the Vale of Glamorgan.
I also work nationwide and worldwide with couples and individuals via Zoom.
How to make contact
I can be contacted via email
If you would like to chat about your particular problem in greater detail and also get a feel for me as a therapist and whether my approach feels like the right fit for you, then please do not hesitate to give me a call on 07735166997.
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Thought for the day
A recent survey of 3000 divorced individuals found that 10 years after divorce 50% regretted their decision, and wished that they had worked harder to try and save their marriage. Ending a marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make, some relationships are indeed long past their end date, but many more have huge potential to be saved. Our romantic relationships are a learning ground, continually teaching us about ourselves, they also offer an enormous opportunity for emotional growth. If lessons aren't learnt they are very likely to be taken on to cause problems in future relationships.
Most couples require no more than 5 sessions to learn the tools to reboot their relationship. Make 2021 the year you decide to invest in a more connected and happier future.
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