Relationship Counselling for Individuals or Couples in Cardiff and South Wales Liz Hunt BSc, Dip CG, Dip Lch.

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Relationship/couples counselling

' A beautiful thing happens when we start paying attention to each other. It is by participating more in your relationship that you breathe life into it.' Steve Maraboli

Over 90% of couples that came to me for counselling in 2017 felt their relationship had vastly improved as a result.

Statistics show that often a couple will struggle for 6 years prior to making the decision to have counselling. Do not wait until you have one foot in the divorce courts -the sooner you get help, the sooner you will reap the benefits of a healthy and happy relationship.

My area of specialism is relationship/couples/marriage therapy. Our relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives and problems within relationships can cause considerable emotional distress, and rock the very foundations of your life.

Couples often get stuck in unhealthy patterns with both partners feeling unappreciated,unheard and unloved.
Resentments build up and cause increasing frustration and hostility. Couples often stop talking and with lines of communications broken the relationship becomes stuck, with an ever increasing void developing between them.

The typical problems I help my clients overcome are -

  • Infidelity and trust issues. Affair/multiple affairs, sexting etc.
  • Anger, aggression and hostility within relationships.
  • Problems arising from a blended family.
  • Work/life balance, often with one partner working too much.
  • Lack or loss of sexual intimacy.
  • Loss of emotional intimacy.
  • Years of built up resentments, that remain unresolved.
  • Communication problems- vicious circles of arguments that never find a solution.
  • Solving differences of opinion on - finances, housework, extended family, working hours.
  • Working through the ' I love you but am not in love with you' problem
  • Addiction and it's effects on relationships, this can be to work, alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, computer games/social media.
  • Parenting issues

    A successful relationship is the coming together of two happy healthy individuals. My work with couples involves looking at the individuals within the relationship as well as your relationship to each other. Sometimes one partner's unresolved issues are what is causing the problem sometimes there are unresolved emotional issues on both sides. Solving these issues helps create a solid foundation from which to rebuild and strengthen the relationship going forward.

    Be honest - does the root of the problem lie with you? Both parties in a relationship should ask themselves this question - if I no longer had my partner in my life, would I be happy? It is all too easy to blame our partners for our own unhappiness, and many people do just that, it's called projection. It is far easier to point the finger repeatedly at your partner than to look at your own problems. We must remember that we are all responsible for our own happiness and fulfilment. A relationship is a compliment to a happy life, but if you have carried problems and issues around with you for years a relationship will not fix your problems, only you can do that.

    Are there any active addictions ruining your relationship? More and more I am seeing addictions tear apart relationships. These addiction can come in many guises- drugs, alcohol, work and career, computer games, pornography, gambolling. For a relationship to be happy and healthy the relationship should always be the priority. If there is a running addiction the addiction will be the priority not the relationship. This leads to loneliness, frustration, resentment and anger in the partner who is pushed aside because of the addiction. If you have an addiction it must be dealt with in order for you and your relationship to stand a chance of getting healthy. Please do not underestimate the damage that workaholism can do to a relationship. This is the issue that I see most frequently and it's effect on relationships can be devastating.

    Do you have firm Boundaries?
    In order to have a healthy and happy relationship whether with a partner, family member, friend or work colleague it is vitally important that you make your boundaries very clear. A boundary is a shield for your emotional self, which enables you to look after your emotional health and stops you from being mistreated. Clear boundaries tell others how we expect to be treated, and what is unacceptable. Often people that struggle with confrontation or low self-esteem also struggle to put in place firm clear boundaries and as a result find themselves carrying around a huge amount of hurt or resentment or worse still mistreated by others. Often partners that are unable to confront issues as they arise end up with a relationship that is unbalanced and unfair. They accept behaviour that they do not agree with but feel unable to address the issue. This over time leads to mounting resentments, often that their partner is totally unaware of. As part of relationship counselling I will teach you the tools to put in place boundaries that will allow you to have healthy rewarding relationships that do not cause you emotional distress. You will learn how to confidently address problems as they arise, so that the relationship is able to develop in a fair, loving and emotionally open manner.

    The tools you will learn from Relationship Therapy.

  • Effective loving communication, that allows both partners to be heard and understood, stopping the build up of resentment.
  • Understanding the importance of vulnerability, and how it allows for a deeper connection.
  • How to fully understand your own and each others needs.
  • Learning the importance of self love, and not prioritising others to the detriment of yourself.
  • The importance of prioritising each other and putting consistent time and effort into your relationship.
  • Those that play together stay together, how to put the fun back into your relationship.
  • How to overcome disagreements quickly and effectively.
  • How to design an exciting future together.
  • How to rekindle passion, intimacy and romance, and keep it alive.
  • The importance of daily acts of kindness.
  • The importance of consistent effort.
  • Learn my 7 vital keys to a loving Relationship

  • " Liz is the most direct therapist you will meet, there are no hiding places, or questions she wont ask. But if you are on the verge of divorce like we were, Liz will help you. Without reservation Liz saved our marriage, I never believed in counselling but we are proof it can and does work, just wish we'd gone years earlier." Pete and Kath Penarth

    'I saw Liz when I was going through a divorce from Hell. Liz was my port in the storm, a fantastic counsellor. ' S Kear Cardiff

    ' The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is a reaction, both are transformed ' . C.G.Jung

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